When I was 16 years old I got into a fight with an older guy who accidentally tapped my bumper in traffic. I started yelling at him from my car. He yelled back. Pretty soon we were both out of our cars shouting at each other in the middle of the street. Then he pushed me and I pushed him back. Things went downhill fast after that.
The Mushin Way
Do you use your cell phone as an alarm clock? I used to. Here was my morning routine for years — see if this sounds familiar: My iPhone alarm goes off, I reach over to turn it off, and immediately start looking at emails, text messages, social media posts, and a million other alerts that have popped up overnight. My heart rate increases, my stress levels spike, and I start worrying about all the things I have to do.
Areas of Well-Being
How come no one ever told me NOT to travel across the country with my wife and nine-month old baby for Thanksgiving — along with the millions of other people doing the same thing? We had to get from our house to the airport over an hour away with car-seat, stroller, luggage, an assortment of carry-ons, and, oh yeah, the baby. Two flights and a lot of frazzled nerves later, we were in frigid northwestern PA for Thanksgiving.
Being Strong Can Make You Weak
A few days after my 34th birthday, I was diagnosed with testicular cancer. Surgery successfully removed the tumor, along with my right testicle, and I was cancer free. The only real suffering I went through was the relentless jokes from my buddies. We all had a ball laughing at my predicament. (Please tell me you got that…) Several months later after thinking I beat cancer, my doctors and I discovered cancer had spread to my lungs. All jokes stopped.
Ever Throw A Live Hand Grenade?
The Hardest Thing I Ever Did was Nothing
I lived in Japan for 10 years and worked as a management consultant setting up the branch offices of Fortune 500 companies in Tokyo, Osaka, and other parts of Asia. This allowed me to make a great living and to spend a great deal of my hard-earned Yen training with many of the premier martial arts masters of the day. In addition to the tough physical training of the martial arts, I also regularly practiced Zen meditation.
The Mushin Leader
I enlisted in the Marine Corps at age 17 and didn’t graduate from college until the ripe old age of 26. I remember attending a networking event at the exclusive Tokyo American Club in Japan with a bunch of really smart, successful, and affluent business leaders. For some reason I thought if I wore glasses I would look smarter and more successful.